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Across The Miles (LDR revisted)


I hope all of you don’t mind, but I wanted to get a little personal.

This morning, I took my boyfriend, Luke Ranieri, to the airport: He’s headed to Japan for a four-year stint as a Logistics Officer in the United States Air Force. I love him deeply and couldn’t be more proud of him and his accomplishments, but the reality of separation has already started to creep in.

I’ve been in a long-distance relationship once before — needless to say, it didn’t turn out well. The ease of communication via Skype and Facebook was only made more complicated by the physical (and sometimes emotional) unavailability of one person or the other. In the end, it simply became too hard to maintain a romantic connection across a distance that was just as much in our minds / hearts as it was in miles.

Naturally, I was a bit scared to consider another long-distance relationship. I’d been pretty burned in the last one, and still deal with its scars from time to time. But when I thought about it at great length, I came to three main conclusions:

  1. This relationship was different from my last in many ways, especially in terms of how we communicate with one another and express ourselves.
  2. I am a different person than I was during my last relationship. I am (admittedly) less needy, as well as far more secure in who I am and what I bring to a relationship.
  3. I love him.

I don’t know what’s going to happen with Luke and me during the next few years. He and I both have things to accomplish in our careers and don’t plan on settling down anytime soon. However, I do know love is a strong and powerful entity, no matter where you are. As long as that love exists, I don’t intend to lose it. Kiss kiss.

3 Comments leave one →
  1. Shinkaku permalink
    28/05/2012 08:00

    All things are constantly changing and the ability of any relationship to endure rests in one’s ability to recognize and deal with those changes that will certainly occur…distance makes both the recognizing and dealing more difficult but life still goes on…may you be happy.

  2. 29/05/2012 14:47

    Good luck!

  3. 31/05/2012 23:45

    LDRs are hard, but you nailed it – communication and love. 🙂

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